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A Deeper Connection: Your Higher Self & God!

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A Deeper Connection Series – Your Higher Self & God!

I wrote in another post that a deeper connection with yourself is the first step to having meaningful connection in your life. A connection with your Higher Self is taking this to a whole another level.

I use your “Higher Self” and “God” as being synonymous because you are a part of God, therefore so is your higher self.

We also spoke about meditation. We’ll talk about a specific meditation here as well.


Your Higher Self is also your soul, and it can have a different appearance to you or be a bigger version of you. But before you can connect with him/her, it’s best to do some spiritual cleansing. You can start with practicing the ancient Hawaiian practice of reconciliation and forgiveness. This is known as Ho’oponopono.

It is recognition that we are all responsible at some level for everything that happens to us. We must forgive ourselves and all around us. You can practice this by reciting the following phrases: “I’m sorry. Forgive me, Thank you. I love you.” They don’t need to be said in this order. “I love you” can come first. And don’t worry who you’re asking for forgiveness. Just trust the process and know that this is a process of getting closed to your Higher Self. More detailed process available here.


Know that holding on to anger helps no one. This is why it is important to forgive. Anger is a poison that we drink hoping our enemy dies. It simply doesn’t serve you. Forgive others as well as yourself. Use the process above as it will help.

Identify and get rid of limiting beliefs

Limiting Beliefs will hold you back. They are a form of imagination where we take an unfamiliar concept and create negative outcomes for ourselves, often ones which are never likely to happen or be true.

Once we can believe in ourselves, we must make a commitment to serve others. Find ways to help those less fortunate, and it will give you a true appreciation for life.

Practice this meditation from Dr. Wayne Dyer

This is a meditation which I learned from Dr. Wayne Dyer and as it only takes 5 minutes, I can do this in my mind almost anywhere.

Picture in your mind’s eye, you are standing on the ground, thinking about how you’re connected to your Higher Self, knowing that that’s really you. Picture now, your Higher Self looking down on you, with a smile on their face, knowing that you and that it’s really you up there. As this realisation gets stronger, picture a steady small stream of white particles going from your crown chakra to your Higher Self, and a stream of white particles coming back. It will feel like a small trickle at first.

Now as you gaze upon your Lower Self, you intensify that connection. The streams get wider, stronger and brighter. As this happens, you will notice that you and your Higher Self are getting closer. As you practice this meditation daily, this will happen quicker and quicker. To the point that you will completely eliminate the distance, and you become your Higher Self. You are one, and your Lower Self no longer exists in it’s old form. At this point, you can achieve anything you want. The connection between your Higher Self and God/Source is strong. The law of attraction now works in your favour. You will get answers to your questions using your intuition, and quickly.

As you practice these techniques, you will become better and better over time at connecting with your Higher Self. I would love to hear about your progress!

A Deeper Connection: Your relationship!

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A Deeper Connection: Your relationship!

When we’re in a relationship that has gone past that honeymoon phase, it’s easy to get complacent in all the little things that you used to do at the beginning of the relationship. This doesn’t mean that you love them any less, we just become comfortable.

If you’re at this phase with your relationship, you’re in luck. Today I share with you 5 things you can do restore that connection. If your relationship isn’t at this stage, then its even better because you can stop it getting there in the first place.

Don’t wait for Valentine’s

It’s great at the start of the relationship when you get random gifts and surprises for each other. It’s even more special further down the road when the person will not expect it at all. When you do get a surprise for your partner, put a lot of thought into it and don’t just opt for the flowers or chocolate – use a little imagination. Changes are there’s something they’ve been hinting at getting or needs for quite some time now but haven’t had the chance to buy. Go get it!

Same goes for date night. My wife and I have at least one day a week which is date night. Once every couple of months I will take a day off work so we can have a date day! Our son is in school and we spend the day out. Again, be imaginative, suggest things to do and work it out together.

Share your spiritual side

Sharing special moments like prayer together bring a couple so much closer. It’s having a connection with yourself, your creator and your other half. Win-win-win. If you’re not religious, then meditate together 10-15 minutes a day. Your vibrations will match each other, and much like prayer, you will lift each other’s vibrations together. It’s a truly magical experience.

Show appreciation


We all take the little things that people do for granted. But take the time to truly appreciate the things your partner does. If they’ve just loaded laundry into the washing machine, say thank you! Let him or her know that you appreciate them. Do something unexpected, like leaving a love note in their back pocket.

Respect your differences

Men and women are wired differently. That old saying of how men will never understand women and vice versa is a myth. It’s a fact that we think differently, and if you understand how, you can unlock the treasure chest of connection. If you haven’t already, read “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus” by John Gray for much more clarity than I can give in a paragraph. You’ll never look at and treat each other the same again!

Relive memories

Relive your first date, or another happy experience. Surprise your partner by booking a restaurant which you both loved and formed memories at. Go for a walk in the same park you walked in years ago. You know all those special times, you don’t need me to remind you.

A Deeper Connection Series: You!

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A Deeper Connection Series – You!

In the hectic lifestyle that we live in, it is hard sometimes to make time for others, let alone for yourself.

In this series, we will explore how to have a deeper connection with yourself. Arguably this is the most important aspect of having a deeper connection as it will lay the foundation for you to be able to connect with others. You can’t have a deep connection with friends and family if you don’t have connection with yourself.


Meditation is the fountain from which you can bathe in the connection with your higher self and with Source (or God, or Universe). It is important to meditate as often as you can. Daily if you can find 10-15 minutes to have alone and do this, ideally first thing in the morning.

My morning routine consists of exercise, shower, meditate, then get ready for the day. It’s the first hour of the day, which Tony Robbins rightly calls the rudder of the day. Daily meditation will allow you to find answers to questions about yourself that you hadn’t even thought of previously. Set the intention that this meditation will give you a deeper connection before you begin and it will happen.

Go for a long walk

If meditating daily isn’t possible, find the time during your day or evening to go for a walk. The change of environment itself will make you feel better and a walk always helps to clear your head. Enjoy your own company and don’t be afraid to have fun…just don’t forget to get back to work if you’re on your lunch break!

Invest in your growth


When we do something that improves our skills in any area, it makes us feel great about ourselves. This could be something as simple as starting a new hobby, taking up piano lessons or taking a course you’ve been meaning to for years. When we do this, we grow not just what we can do, but WHO we are as a person. We move towards our self-ideal – the person you’ve always wanted to be.

Check your self-talk

What does your inner voice say about you? Do you often find yourself say “yes” to people before you even think about it? Do you worry what others will think if you say “no”? Do you pre-judge yourself when you embark on a new journey? If your little voice often says things that have you doubting yourself, stop for a moment and realise firstly that this negative self-talk is happening, and secondly that it’s not real and it’s not your higher self talking. Once you’ve realised you’ve had this thought, “thank you for sharing, but that’s not true,” and follow it with an opposite and positive statement to what your little voice said. For example, if the thought was “It’ll never work for me!” then your response should be “Thank you for sharing, but that’s not true. It will work for me because I’ll put in the effort to make it work.” Or simply, “I’ll make sure it works for me”.

You get the idea.

If you’re someone who consistently gets this negative self-talk, then make sure you take the time to create some positive affirmations for yourself and use them daily.

Gaze into your eyes

Time to get intimate with yourself. Get to know yourself at a soul level. We feel such a special connection when we look into someone’s eyes. I’m sure you could look into the eyes of your loved ones for hours. Now it’s your turn. Stand in front of a mirror and look deep into your eyes. Gaze into your soul and watch it looking back on itself. Take several minutes to truly appreciate who you are. The wonderful creature you are. The magical soul. Gaze through the lines on your face, appreciate every part of you. Feel the love you have for yourself. Or if it’s easier at first, find the love you have for others and then turn that back to yourself like the tide coming back in. Do this exercise for at least 5 minutes. I promise it will move you.

What else do you do to have a deeper connection with yourself? I’ll love to read your comments below!

How to Stop Making Terrible Decisions


Are you fed up of making decisions that are costly, not just financially but also sometimes emotionally and spiritually?

I know I’ve been there a thousand times in the past where I’ve made terrible decisions, even if my guy instinct tells me otherwise.

Now I go through a series of steps each time an important decision has to be made. I have to say that I still get the occasional decision and actions wrong (just ask my wife) but I now make better quality decisions almost every time.


One thing that I must stress right at the beginning here is that your intuition is one of your most powerful tools in your arsenal to actually making sound decisions.

At times you will feel that you followed your intuition and it still lead down the wrong path. However in hindsight, I’ve found that I’d not read my own inner alarms correctly. Learn to listen to your intuition more and you will make much better decisions.

An invaluable tool I have found is a guided self-hypnosis on YouTube. Listen to this when you have some quiet time. Listen to it a few days in a row. Then you can start changing some of the questions you ask yourself or add new ones. I often listen to meditations, and then alter them to suit my own needs. This will serve you greatly.


Truth is, we disregard so many of our “gut-feelings” that we have about anything. Learn to trust yourself again and get make much better decisions.


What I learned was, a lot of the inner alarms go off when we go against our own core values. What are values you ask? Values are the ideals or emotions that we hold dear to us. To find out your values about something, ask yourself “what do I value the most in _______”. So to get your life values, ask yourself, “What do I value the most in life?”

To get your values about business, ask yourself “What do I value the most in business?” You get the idea. Write these down, ideally you want to get at least 5 values for each area of your life. and you can then put them in an order of importance – what we call a hierarchy.

Emulating Successful People

Donald Trump Speaking

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So now you have your intuition in check, and you ensure that you check each opportunity an decision against your values. One way you can go a step further is to ask yourself the question: “What would Person X do?” Where Person X is someone you admire, who had sound values and someone you would like to emulate. When making business decisions, I ask myself, What would my coach do, what would Richard Branson do, and What would Donald Trump do?

I can’t think of anyone else who would be better at making business decisions than these people. They work for me but you may need to change out to other people. Having read the biographies of these successful people, I have an insight into what these people may be thinking, as well as the mistakes they have already made.

A tip about my mentors and coaches, they are not only great decision makers, but they’re also a phone call away if I need to run something past them. Another great reason to get yourself a coach and a mentor (ahem!)

And remember, to live in Prosperity.

To your Success,

CJ Sohal